Saturday 25 June 2011

Tuesday 21 June 2011

Tuesday 14 June 2011

Taking Control

It’s easy to let things slip and being organised has always been a bug bear of mine.

I keep a calendar on Google which is dandy for repeat events, colour coding and reminders.

We also have a 7 week wipe off calendar which the kids add things to when events come up. I transfer details from Google onto the wipe-off so everyone knows what’s coming up.

If it ain’t on the calendar, Dad doesn’t know about it.

We plan each week ahead so that clashes don’t happen and decide who’s attending what – with me working it’s easy for Gill to get the lion’s share of medicals, which is hardly fair.

All the kids school breaks are on the calendar which is more important with two school involved.

It also helps me to retrieve data: I can’t remember dates and the “events” filter helps me find out when things happened and see patterns too.

It’s not 100% as things slip through the net and we end up missing things or doubled booked. But it’s good enough and serves the purpose.

So are you a filofax fiend or a post-it person?

When I was born

  1. Harold MacMillan was almost done as PM of England and JFK had just celebrated 100 days as President of the US.
  2. Brian Poole and the Tremeloes were no.1 with Do You Love Me?
  3. Sandy Koufax was MVP for the Dodgers leading them to a Series whitewash over the Yankees.
  4. Everton were were football League Champions.
  5. Jim Clarke dominated F1 and came second in the Indy 500 to Parnelli Clarke.
  6. The Beatles were enjoying a 30 week spell at the top of the album charts.
  7. Dr Who and the Daleks hadn’t been broadcast.
  8. A loaf cost 5 pence or 22 cents and a car cost £2500.
  9. The ring pull had just been invented.
  10. Our toilet was downstairs next to the coal cupboard, no-one on our street owned a car and only a few had phones. All windows were single pains of glass and would ice up inside in mid winter.
Times have changed eh?

Tuesday 7 June 2011

From Humble Beginnings

Earlier this year the government announced that child poverty in the UK had fallen by 2% at the end of the last government. But at 20% it still stands out as a very weak aspect of our society.

I remember as a kid, knowing we didn’t have much.

Sweets were a once-a-week-maybe treat (mine get them every other day) – btw there’s always fruit available too!

We got a tiny TV for the lunar landing when I was 5 but it was only a rental.

Holidays were in a borrowed caravan in North Wales.

But there was no mould on the walls. Jobs were more plentiful. By the time we emigrated when I was 7 Dad had been a worker in a transparent paper mill, a weaver and a milkman. We always had meat and two veg and home made fish and chips on Friday.

When I got to High School I started to find out that other kids went abroad once a year and didn’t hand clothes down to younger sibs. I started to develop a sense of shame about it and oddly anger toward my parents about our situation. I grew out of this and became hugely respectful of what my Mum had achieved (2 of us went to Uni and got Honours Degrees and my younger brother is a sr psychiatric nurse).

By then my Dad was disabled from a car accident so we lived off benefits first from Australia and then over here.

It gave me a good sense of how far money stretches and how to cook and look after things to make them last.

The documentary advertised below seems to paint a gloomier picture of the state of people’s homes and lives.

I’ll watch it and post a link to the programme when it appears.

BBC News – What children think and feel about growing up poor.

Monday 6 June 2011

A Kept Man?

A new survey has revealed that half of a man’s clothing is bought by his wife. He purchases 30% while the rest are made up of gifts from friends and relatives.

Well, for me this certainly isn’t true.

I haven’t bought a stitch in years.

Before Gill moved in, I’d buy clothes as and when I needed them (rarely). Shirts and slacks for work. Occasional ties. Jeans when the old ones fell apart. I’d only ever have what I needed.

But when she took over the purse strings my wardrobe got thoroughly freshened up. Lots of old ‘favourites’ disappeared and since then she has done the shopping. Shirts come and go. New undies magically appear in the drawer and if I look at a “fab” shirt I think would look great on me I get “the stare” and walk on.

Unlike me, Gill loves shopping and will happily go out when I get home to do a full grocery shop. She makes all the major appliance purchases (usually online and sourced by me – I’m good at digging out a bargain) and likes nothing more than choosing new drapes or bedding.

Purgatory for me would be an eternity in a mall with an endless shopping list and shop-assistant imps poking me with their forks.

This trend has developed over the years to the point where I’m a bit like royalty – I rarely carry money. Which is a bit odd for someone who works in a supermarket. I pay all my bills online.

I know what to buy. I just, well, don’t.

In my defence, I should say I am not the “kept man”.

Ironing is my province. She has tried ironing my shirts, but you know how you like them and it’s better if I do it. So I now do all the ironing, including school uniform.

Sewing is mine too. I hem the girls’ school slacks, fix holes in sweaters and repair torn seams. It’s “Dad’s sewing box” not Mum’s.

I can cook a full Sunday Roast and my mash potato is, according to the girls, better than Mum’s (tho they would never tell her).

I bath the babes and do my share of smelly nappies too.

So my one concession is having my clothes bought for me.

That’s not a bad thing is it?

Friday 3 June 2011

Riding the Panther

No it’s not a fancy analogy for anything.

We took Ashley to the kids’ Physio department to meet Paul, the rep from allabilitycycling.co.uk. They supply specially adapted bikes for kids with disabilities more challenges than most.

We took his frame so he could walk into the place and as we did the team were out with a little girl going up and down with her Mum towing her along.

The bikes are basically big tricycles with seat belts, saddles with high sides and pedal straps. They have tow bars for parents to initially pull them along then just to guide them.

To say he loved his turn is an understatement. He smiled and laughed his way round he car park several times – until me and Gill ran out of steam anyway!

Should have got some pics but we were so taken with his enthusiasm we forgot.

The only problem is that the bikes are obviously expensive. The one he should have – the Quest 88 Panther – with the straps etc is about £1100 (quote’s in the post). So now we have to start fundraising because the Physio only get money for wheelchairs and frames.

Wish us luck!

Wednesday 1 June 2011

t'internet

“t’internet” is used up here in the North of England by folk who see it in the same way as the first people to spot a new fangled autymobile chugging by. The kids use it and take it for granted and oldies like me have learned to harness it and make it work for us.

The internet is what you make it.

Social networking is fab but can be intrusive and you can say too much.

Email is a great tool in business to send information and pics as attachments but is getting outdated by modern media. I can remember telling my boss about 8 years ago about using on-site gear to show him around installations while he was still in his office. Now that’s humdrum.

I can keep in touch with old school pals without the pain of sitting in a bar with them.

I can chat with folk in the US with free video links.

I read several blogs most days and amongst them is one by Ellen, Mum to Purple Spaghetti Max. I can get a daily dose of someone in a very similar situation to us but a few years on. Others who comment on her blog provide further insight too. Blogging does expose you to the world but it’s up to you what you write and put out there in the way of pictures. The feedback I get from the likes of mumof4 (I’m a dadof4!) and mancais via twitter (we both seem to spend a lot of time in hospitals!:)) and many others is invaluable.

One bugbear I do have is all the tempting Get Rich Quick Schemes. I would love to work for ten hours a week and pull in £$1000 but in the real world, it ain’t gonna happen. I’m sure there are ways to set up home businesses but it’s not as easy as they make out.

We’ve been online (first dial up and now Broadband) for 14 years.

So how long have you been online? and is the internet a pain or a boon or a bit of both?

I think life was probably quieter without it.